The age gap when dating

Morm

So I am smitten with (rather, at) a girl at a local store. Only problem is, she's no older than 18...if she's 17, obviously all bets are off. Assuming she's 18, I'm 6+ years older than her. I realize when you're like 40 age doesn't matter, but she's pretty young still and I'm like a grizzled old man or something.

Is there a good reason as to why I should be concerned about the age gap? If so, what is the typical rule for this, other than half your age plus 7?

PS 1/2 age plus 7 is 19 in my case so it's a close call
 
My mom's 34 year old cousin was dating a 17 year old/still is.

I mean that's Denmark and not Canada but... I mean, just saying, you don't look too bad stacked up to that.

What store? :0
 
Cool your jets scicky I know you're from Calgary but I saw her first.
Edit: You can have her if she rejects me okay?
And it is totally fucked up when people in their thirties date people in their teens. Yuck.
 
1/2 + 7 is good, but that might just be because I love the Bro Code.

Honestly, if she's legal, I don't think the age difference will matter that much. You're in your early 20's and she's legal. Go for it. It only gets weird if you were say 40 and she had just turned 18.
 
Being concerned about the age gap is stupid, but there's a fairly high chance of a personality disconnect between you two because of it (i.e. you'll want different things in life), go in with that knowledge and see how it goes is about all you can really do.
 
Looks are important to me, and if the person looks old, it doesn't match up with my expectations. I dated someone who was 10 years older but could pass off as 23.
 
well the age gap seems a lot more from her perspective, to be honest. Though, in my defense, I don't like dating retards and people who are about that age tend to do retarded things a higher percentage of the time.
 
Just go for it you pussy :p I don't really think age has any relevance on anything, although I don't think I could date anyone much younger than that myself (My age rule is 17, which is actually how old the girl is that I'm going for). But as long as you're okay with it and she's ok with it, what's the problem? I've heard much worse than 6-7 years. Besides, if she is in fact 17 she'll be turning 18 soon and be legal anyways!
 
So long as you guys are both of age (and you better investigate that pretty thoroughly) then the age difference doesn't really matter. What does matter is maturity. I'll talk to 18-19 year old girls every now and then, but most of the time I'll find they've still got the mindset of the girls in high school so I usually like to stick with girls closer to my age or older. But hey if she's cool then go for it dude.
 
I don't know why you would want to date someone so immature IMHO, but if what you're looking for is just some fun than go for it.

To me that's mainly the reason why anyone would date someone significantly younger than them.
 
You DON'T want to date someone immature. If you have standards when dating (and you should), it's not hard to find girls that are very mature. In fact, the more mature they are the more they actually want to date older guys. Although some immature ones date older guys because they want to think of themselves as being mature too.
 
Kitten Bukkake said:
well the age gap seems a lot more from her perspective, to be honest. Though, in my defense, I don't like dating retards and people who are about that age tend to do retarded things a higher percentage of the time.
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Try it, if it doesn't work break it off.

It's dating, not the fucking war in Afghanistan.
 
I'm 18 years old and even though that half + 7 rule means I can go for 16 year olds, I find them incredibly fucking immature and couldn't envision myself being with them. I've hooked up with 23 year olds by the same token, so I guess age didn't matter to them (or they didn't know my age hehe) too much cause they thought I looked/acted mature enough. So assuming they aren't too young, which she isn't by the looks of things, and assuming she is mature enough for you in your honest opinion then by all means go for it. Age is often an accurate indicator of maturity, but it isn't an absolute and when it comes down to it, none of us know this girl but you (so therefore we can't really judge maturity) so its your call no matter how much advice we try and give you!
 
Yeah I worry about the immaturity as well. I don't want date a mouth breather. She's holding down a ft job and has a high school diploma with no extra baggage hanging off her tit (ie a child) that I can see, so she's already better than many single women. I'll just mosey on down to her store in the next couple of days and probe the defenses further.

An exhaustive facebook yield has given me nothing; looks like I'll need to actually ask her age instead of just stalk her. ;_;
 
Or don't ask her age? If she ends up being 17 just don't have sex with her. If she has a high school diploma odds are she'll be 18 soon enough if you really can't wait that long.
 
yeah she gradded in june.

Mika, at my ripe age of 24 many people are either married, in long term or they have something exceptionally glaring wrong with them.

the question is obviously her age, not if she'll say yes cause we all know she will.
 
Kitten Bukkake said:
yeah she gradded in june.

Mika, at my ripe age of 24 many people are either married, in long term or they have something exceptionally glaring wrong with them.
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Or the singles could be independent people with high standards in a partner; those are the real meat of the dating pool and they're hard to find.
 
It's so true mike, I have seen so much codependency (I'm even guilty of it) mixed with desperation it's not even funny. I've seen someone sell out everything they believe in for the comfort of known they have a partner. That shit never lasts. It's even RARER to find an 18-20 year old with qualities like you described.
 
Here's what you do.

Are you interested in her? Yes
Does your "better judgement" say not to? Apparently not.

Go out with her and learn a lesson if there is one to be learned.
 
Yes, every person, regardless of what your intentions are, can be used to learn something. Knowing that, don't expect anything and enjoy the ride.
 
Legal issues should be learned if they come into play here.

On another note, I once dated a woman 12 years older than me-- I have to say it was awesome in all sorts of ways.
 
Yea agreeing with the general consensus to just go for it. Worse case senario it does not work out in which case you have not really lost anything
 
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