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girls aren't attracted to boys who perch themselves on a pedestals, dudet's mostly about your value being higher than hers dude.
girls aren't attracted to boys who perch themselves on a pedestals, dudet's mostly about your value being higher than hers dude.
Slow to respond to this, but whateve. In my opinion just ask directly. There is nothing more annoying then someone who beats around the bush. I have had plenty of guy friends ask me. If you truly have a friendship it won't make things awkward. Jelli actually ask me out freshman year of college, and I said no. Did that change anything? No. The year after we bonded and became closer than ever. Then we moved in together and we have be inseparable best friends ever since. (In the end we found out he wasn't really a relationship kind of guy, he just likes getting his dick wet. V.V) I have a boyfriend and a healthy relationship and Zach has well whatever girl catches his interest at the time.Okay I have a couple QUESTIONS!
First, what are some good places to ask a girl to for the first time? And what's a non-awkward way to bring it up?
Also, is there any way to break a friend zone if you're pretty sure you and one of your friends have feelings for each other without totally losing the girl if she doesn't? God screw friend zones~~I can never tell if she's just dropping hints or just being friendly...
What I was basically saying was all dates should have an easy out. With going for tea or coffee at a diner you can be like, Uh I'm done. Or an museum 'I saw all the things I wanted to.'Yeah movies should be an option only when it's a hyper flick that your both stoked about and just happened to know each other before its prime re or something...actually anything that you both enjoy (drinking over-rated coffies or an admiration for art) seems like a good idea for a first date.
To me I don't find it terribly hard to find if a woman is attracted to you or not, if she is and it's the first time you see eachother the one's that are really attracted just smile endlessly and lighten up considerably.
Also, does anyone notice that certain races are attracted...how should I say these...more to them? Or is it just me looking for patterns like I usually do.
It's because you're looking for a fairy tale when the world is full of beauty and intelligence if you're just willing to open your mind and take a leap.why is it so hard to find someone who completely sweeps you off your feet?
Hopefully that means we're not completely shallow and sex-obsessed and have some emotions maybeHoly shit, this turned from a "confess your sex experiences" into a "how to date gurlz" thread, lol
And this is why practically every cute Japanese Drama has a date scene at an aquarium-- it's super cliche in Japan, but it actually makes sense. You constantly walk around and talk to each other, but all the cool sea creatures and what-not gives you a fall-back to talk about so there's no awkward silences if you can't think of anything. Also, guys tend to know a bit more about creepy-crawlies (and fish) so you can get a little "wow" mileage out of explaining stuff she doesn't know.Honestly the best first dates I have ever been on are over coffee or tea, going to a museum, or even just going for a walk in the park(if you are into that.). Things like that are intimate and you can talk over things, get to know each other. Yet still public enough that it isn't uncomfortable.
^^^^^^^^Hopefully that means we're not completely shallow and sex-obsessed and have some emotions maybe
Protip - I'm an ecology major with a specialization in field ecology and conservational biology and I still LOVE the zoo because hey I know a lot about it! Do something you guys *enjoy*Of course they can, but you're probably not going to invite a marine biology major on a date to the aquarium. I'm just talking about broad generalizations. Stereotyping may not be PC, but our brains rely on it for decision making because it works more often then not. >___>
On the other end of the spectrum, if you're like me and you have multiple aquariums set up at your house, and read through every book on crustaceans, mollusks, and fish in the library in your elementary school days-- protip: this is not the time to start a boring-ass lecture.
Asking what they want to do is always nice!I think the concern here is that guys don't often know something what they and the girl would enjoy, and yet they have to be proactive to make a good impression.
implying girls know what they want.Asking what they want to do is always nice!
God so much this... i have stopped asking girls what they want to do on the first date entirely (or asking a girl what they want for dinner) because the only thing they say is "I don't care! You pick!"implying girls know what they want.
(In seriousness though, how often do people actually answer that question instead of saying "oh I dunno, I'm cool with whatever" or the like?)
<&dodrio> do u guys thinkGod so much this... i have stopped asking girls what they want to do on the first date entirely (or asking a girl what they want for dinner) because the only thing they say is "I don't care! You pick!"
This this this this this this, 100x this. Girls say with their mouths they want a guy who's intelligent, sweet, and kind (which may be true a few months down the relationship), but initially they are attracted to guys who are confident, decisive, manly, and leave a strong impression.implying girls know what they want.
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Speaking of which: Girls, I need your help - Namely, how to tell if girls like girls please??? I'm terrified of approaching girls because holy crap they are mean creatures if they don't like you and if you try to flirt with them and they're straight lord help us all
Edit: Ps Chou girls can know about animals too thanks!!!!!
Agreed!i mean, i don't expect either party to have much planned that they can't just pull out of thin air at a moment's notice - first dates are about getting to know one another, so it's not like either of you can be relaxed for familiar enough to suggest doing something you'll both like, besides the fool-proof foods or movie stuff. but I think it's attractive if someone is eager to do a certain thing, and the other party just agrees outright. it's definitely less about what you're doing and more about doing something that puts you two in an easy going environment to get to know one another!
You're probably judging every girl/guy you meet to determine whether or not they fit the qualifications for what you think you want in a partner and systematically rejecting them.
i think that's actually kinda true, I'm probably doing that on a subconscious superficial level that I don't even realise it but ahh it's pretty much impossible to ignore a person's particular physical traits (that would catch your attention) don't you guys think?That's because you don't know what you want junior, if you do you'd prolly be swept off your feet many times by now.
no way! I have heaps of lesbian friends and they're like the most down to earth people ever, like seriously they are all somehow so chill it's ridiculousSpeaking of which: Girls, I need your help - Namely, how to tell if girls like girls please??? I'm terrified of approaching girls because holy crap they are mean creatures if they don't like you and if you try to flirt with them and they're straight lord help us all
in my experiences, if everything else is there then in time you will begin to find them attractive.actually, here's another food for thought: i personally think it's IMPOSSIBLE to fall in love or have a relationship with someone you don't find physically attractive. would you guys agree?