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Story of my life. Except I'm 21, far past high school. And I'm still here, so don't worry, nothing is going to happen to you. If you aren't even in high school yet you've got plenty of time to make a social life if you long for one so much. The reply most people are going to give you is probably "be yourself."
Nothing wrong with not having friends if you've just moved, some people are just not too good at meeting new people or making friends, but in due time, which you have a lot of, you will find friends. Sports, clubs and other trash like that should help. Obviously I'm not telling you this from personal experience, i'm telling you this because I've read a couple of threads similar to this one, and all the advise said this type of thing.
Nothing wrong with not having friends if you've just moved, some people are just not too good at meeting new people or making friends, but in due time, which you have a lot of, you will find friends. Sports, clubs and other trash like that should help. Obviously I'm not telling you this from personal experience, i'm telling you this because I've read a couple of threads similar to this one, and all the advise said this type of thing.
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Not really something one would expect on Smogon, but I'm no humbug.
You're what, 14? At the best High school in the US and don't have any friends because you moved? Sounds like something you shouldn't really be worried about. I would really focus on studying, and for heaven's sake if you're so distracted by the computer you need to keep yourself away from it. Go do some homework or something. When you're at school, try and find people who might have the same interests as yourself. During lunch check the library, lunchroom, maybe some classrooms, and just have a look see.
Fact is you're the new kid in town and a Freshmen in highschool. I'd be more surprised if you DID have friends. Just chill and don't let it bother you, but for now concentrate on your schoolwork, because it'll follow you through your whole highschool career. Believe me, I got some bad grades in freshmen year and am still kicking myself about it. Try your best, concentrate more on school, relax, and good luck.
You're what, 14? At the best High school in the US and don't have any friends because you moved? Sounds like something you shouldn't really be worried about. I would really focus on studying, and for heaven's sake if you're so distracted by the computer you need to keep yourself away from it. Go do some homework or something. When you're at school, try and find people who might have the same interests as yourself. During lunch check the library, lunchroom, maybe some classrooms, and just have a look see.
Fact is you're the new kid in town and a Freshmen in highschool. I'd be more surprised if you DID have friends. Just chill and don't let it bother you, but for now concentrate on your schoolwork, because it'll follow you through your whole highschool career. Believe me, I got some bad grades in freshmen year and am still kicking myself about it. Try your best, concentrate more on school, relax, and good luck.
Perhaps your personality is offputting (the location of "your mom's bed" does not sing accolades about your friend-worthiness).
So I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume your fml post is serious. First, getting into a specific high school, while a nice goal, is not a prerequisite for getting friends. If you can't find any people who will share your interests where you currently are, what makes you think going somewhere else will be a magic bullet?
I wouldn't worry about getting beaten up for liking something. You can't let people like that push you around and prevent you from living your own life. It's simply cowardly not to engage with someone else because the people at your school might be a bunch of jerkasses because of what you like.
You don't need to be a social butterfly and go to every single party (the parties at my college were vastly overrated), or even one. But you should find at least one or two people to socialize with on a regular basis if you feel that bad about it. Do it while you have the opportunity rather than when you have to commute the school or deal with a huge work schedule.
So I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume your fml post is serious. First, getting into a specific high school, while a nice goal, is not a prerequisite for getting friends. If you can't find any people who will share your interests where you currently are, what makes you think going somewhere else will be a magic bullet?
I wouldn't worry about getting beaten up for liking something. You can't let people like that push you around and prevent you from living your own life. It's simply cowardly not to engage with someone else because the people at your school might be a bunch of jerkasses because of what you like.
You don't need to be a social butterfly and go to every single party (the parties at my college were vastly overrated), or even one. But you should find at least one or two people to socialize with on a regular basis if you feel that bad about it. Do it while you have the opportunity rather than when you have to commute the school or deal with a huge work schedule.
Don't worry too much, honestly school is not a good place to make friends.
University (or as you yanks like to call it College) is a much different story, I only have one friend from my school years (and we didn't go to school together, we lived about 2 blocks apart and happen to have very similar interests) and a fair few from Uni.
University (or as you yanks like to call it College) is a much different story, I only have one friend from my school years (and we didn't go to school together, we lived about 2 blocks apart and happen to have very similar interests) and a fair few from Uni.
Well first off, lemme tell you that its not fair for you to be complaining like that. For the people who are much worse off than you should be thought about before the *Oh woe is me my life sux* statement. Secondly, lemme say that apart from our age difference, my similarities with you is very scary. Third, like I tell myself and people like you every single time this comes up. Your life is far to short to be so depressed like this. Imma say your somewhere between 14-17 so you still got 50-70 years left. That time can go by very very very VERY fast. Don't waste your life feeling depressed about your actions. Instead make yourself change it. Take action, be better, and do what you feel is right. Try to make friends. Try to figure people out.
I have a few differences from you. One of which is extremely important. I have a best friend. He's been there for me sense second grade and he's probably the only thing that's stopped me from making a randum post like yours on a site that has nothing to do with my life and doesn't particularly care either. Make some friends. Some people you can trust. Don't just say hi in school, hang with them at lunch, and stuff like that cause then there just school friends and they won't mean anything to you when you get out. Find the time to be with them in your free time. Talk to em on the phone. visit them at there house. And I'm not just talking about some kinda anual I wouldn't do this unless I had to thing. I mean really get into em. Really try to be their friend. Who knows it might work out for you. Not only that but just because your into this stuff doesn't make your life that bad.
You'll find that the stuff your into, even the most repetive nonsense can have some use for you. Your so obssesssed over the computer? See what you can get into with the computer. If your so into video games and stuff, try and get into making em or help making em.
Your life isn't fail just cause or your statements. It's only fail if you call it so soon. Your not dead yet so don't announce it to the world. Just change it. It's not gonna be simple but focus on doing the small stuff first. Focus less on the computer and more on the people around you. Play the video games less and hang with the friends you make. Stop watching tv so much and go outside and have some fun. You'll find small changes to your life can have a significant impact on your confidence, personality, and socialism.
I have a few differences from you. One of which is extremely important. I have a best friend. He's been there for me sense second grade and he's probably the only thing that's stopped me from making a randum post like yours on a site that has nothing to do with my life and doesn't particularly care either. Make some friends. Some people you can trust. Don't just say hi in school, hang with them at lunch, and stuff like that cause then there just school friends and they won't mean anything to you when you get out. Find the time to be with them in your free time. Talk to em on the phone. visit them at there house. And I'm not just talking about some kinda anual I wouldn't do this unless I had to thing. I mean really get into em. Really try to be their friend. Who knows it might work out for you. Not only that but just because your into this stuff doesn't make your life that bad.
You'll find that the stuff your into, even the most repetive nonsense can have some use for you. Your so obssesssed over the computer? See what you can get into with the computer. If your so into video games and stuff, try and get into making em or help making em.
Your life isn't fail just cause or your statements. It's only fail if you call it so soon. Your not dead yet so don't announce it to the world. Just change it. It's not gonna be simple but focus on doing the small stuff first. Focus less on the computer and more on the people around you. Play the video games less and hang with the friends you make. Stop watching tv so much and go outside and have some fun. You'll find small changes to your life can have a significant impact on your confidence, personality, and socialism.
Well, this is kind of interesting. I was totally going to offer you the exact kind of suggestions made by Kurashi. Very scary how he literally took those ideas from of my mind.
Anyway, like what others have already suggested, just BE yourself. You seem to be a kind of introverted person, which is normal by the way. Those people who you described and wanted to mimic are extraverted. Trying to change yourself for the sake of becoming someone like that doesn't work. I'd say try to find and make friend with people who have similar interests as you do. Some of the people on Smogon actually do get together and meet up in-person, so maybe you can try that. Find yourself a social group you can fit in at school. Even if you can only find yourself a small number of best friends, it is certainly better than making a bunch of friends but in the end who wouldn't care about you when you're in need of them. These will be the people who actually stick with you when you're done with high school and into the rest of your life.
You are "you." Be proud of yourself. Find the talent you're good at. Share activity with the people with common interests. Take care of your friends and they will reciprocate the same to you.
Anyway, like what others have already suggested, just BE yourself. You seem to be a kind of introverted person, which is normal by the way. Those people who you described and wanted to mimic are extraverted. Trying to change yourself for the sake of becoming someone like that doesn't work. I'd say try to find and make friend with people who have similar interests as you do. Some of the people on Smogon actually do get together and meet up in-person, so maybe you can try that. Find yourself a social group you can fit in at school. Even if you can only find yourself a small number of best friends, it is certainly better than making a bunch of friends but in the end who wouldn't care about you when you're in need of them. These will be the people who actually stick with you when you're done with high school and into the rest of your life.
You are "you." Be proud of yourself. Find the talent you're good at. Share activity with the people with common interests. Take care of your friends and they will reciprocate the same to you.
Though I agree with many of the posters here, just "being yourself" might seem like a pretty vague piece of advice to follow at your age. But seriously, it's not. To put it into more practical terms, join clubs and sports. Really, just do it. Pick something that sounds/looks interesting, and try it out. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
This is the mentality you must keep when you start with nothing. Girls, friends, job opportunities, whatever. When you don't have them, you have nothing to lose when trying to obtain them, so keep on trying!
You have value bro, don't let people (and especially not that god awful critic in your head) tell yourself different. In time you'll find your own interests, skills, and hobbies; this helps you find yourself more interesting/valuable. Others will radiate towards you when you find yourself interesting.
This is the mentality you must keep when you start with nothing. Girls, friends, job opportunities, whatever. When you don't have them, you have nothing to lose when trying to obtain them, so keep on trying!
You have value bro, don't let people (and especially not that god awful critic in your head) tell yourself different. In time you'll find your own interests, skills, and hobbies; this helps you find yourself more interesting/valuable. Others will radiate towards you when you find yourself interesting.
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lol it's scary how similar peoples problems can be and how troublesome it is to fix such a common problem
Now most of the people who have posted on this thread have stated that being yourself is the best option to finding friends. I sorta agree with them but that's not the end of the story. Being yourself won't make people come to you like a magnet. You have to go to them. You have to look for these people who are willing to be with you. Unfortunatally, many people face their own problems in life that negatively impact their lives. This makes them very intolerable. People are gonna be terrible with you. There are gonna be bullys. There are gonna be stupid people, cocky people, hell even mysterious (I.E someone you can't figure out until it's to late) people.
Even when this all gets to you and you just can't take it anymore you can't give in. Keep looking and eventually you'll find that someone who you can truely call friend. It might not even be on purpose either. Before I knew him I had no idea who my best friend was. In second grade I had gotten into trouble. There was a little stump in my class room and I was sense there for "Time Out". My best friend came up to me, and with no idea who he was, we talked and I sat up, ignored the remaining time in time out and played with him. Fast forward 12-13 years later and suddenly he's my best friend ever. I don't know how he noticed me. All I know it I was myself. I was looking for a friend and he was just there. He was looking for me as a friend. He was completely himself for all these 12-13 years around me. Never once did he try to sell himself as something else. I know him better than I know the back of my hand and I memorized the back of my hand in order to pass the 1 year of computer class I had lol.
Look for someone, get to know them, and be yourself. You'll find that there's a person out there who was looking for you as well. Sometimes..... it's just destiny.
lol it's scary how similar peoples problems can be and how troublesome it is to fix such a common problem
Now most of the people who have posted on this thread have stated that being yourself is the best option to finding friends. I sorta agree with them but that's not the end of the story. Being yourself won't make people come to you like a magnet. You have to go to them. You have to look for these people who are willing to be with you. Unfortunatally, many people face their own problems in life that negatively impact their lives. This makes them very intolerable. People are gonna be terrible with you. There are gonna be bullys. There are gonna be stupid people, cocky people, hell even mysterious (I.E someone you can't figure out until it's to late) people.
Even when this all gets to you and you just can't take it anymore you can't give in. Keep looking and eventually you'll find that someone who you can truely call friend. It might not even be on purpose either. Before I knew him I had no idea who my best friend was. In second grade I had gotten into trouble. There was a little stump in my class room and I was sense there for "Time Out". My best friend came up to me, and with no idea who he was, we talked and I sat up, ignored the remaining time in time out and played with him. Fast forward 12-13 years later and suddenly he's my best friend ever. I don't know how he noticed me. All I know it I was myself. I was looking for a friend and he was just there. He was looking for me as a friend. He was completely himself for all these 12-13 years around me. Never once did he try to sell himself as something else. I know him better than I know the back of my hand and I memorized the back of my hand in order to pass the 1 year of computer class I had lol.
Look for someone, get to know them, and be yourself. You'll find that there's a person out there who was looking for you as well. Sometimes..... it's just destiny.
I only got one piece of advice. Life is too short to be depressed all the time.
In the end, it all depends on your heart. No matter how hard you try, you are gonna end up doing what you want to do. If you really got to go to <x>, you will go and you will succeed. If you end up stuck with something you don't want, it's gonna be tough. Truth is, you might now know what you want yet, but you will. Give it some time. Work with what you got. Time tells all, but time won't change anything for you, only you can.
First of all, stop stabbing your subconscious with the moping. After you get past that, you will realize what you want.
In the end, it all depends on your heart. No matter how hard you try, you are gonna end up doing what you want to do. If you really got to go to <x>, you will go and you will succeed. If you end up stuck with something you don't want, it's gonna be tough. Truth is, you might now know what you want yet, but you will. Give it some time. Work with what you got. Time tells all, but time won't change anything for you, only you can.
First of all, stop stabbing your subconscious with the moping. After you get past that, you will realize what you want.
Why don't you just embrace the fact that you're an introvert? There is absolutely nothing wrong with being one. You're sensitive, you're a good listener, and you make for a good friend once you find someone whom you are comfortable being around with.
As an introvert, loud places will exhaust you out quickly. You think parties are cool and glamorous but once you're there, you'll wish you were at home on your computer again. And when you do make ton of friends who frequently invite you out to places all the time, you'll end up not having enough excuses to decline their invitations.
Everyone needs a friend though, so yeah, try to make one good one at least. It's easier said than done, but you have to learn to put yourself out there. Don't wait for people to come to you; you have to come to them. Start out by saying "hello" to familiar faces as you past them by. Once you're comfortable enough, then invite that person to sit with you at lunch. Then invite him/her to do something after school. Then go from there. It's the quality of friendship, not the quantity. Having 1000 people that you barely ever talk to on your facebook is not the same as having one or two close friends whom you spend time doing quality stuff with.
As an introvert, loud places will exhaust you out quickly. You think parties are cool and glamorous but once you're there, you'll wish you were at home on your computer again. And when you do make ton of friends who frequently invite you out to places all the time, you'll end up not having enough excuses to decline their invitations.
Everyone needs a friend though, so yeah, try to make one good one at least. It's easier said than done, but you have to learn to put yourself out there. Don't wait for people to come to you; you have to come to them. Start out by saying "hello" to familiar faces as you past them by. Once you're comfortable enough, then invite that person to sit with you at lunch. Then invite him/her to do something after school. Then go from there. It's the quality of friendship, not the quantity. Having 1000 people that you barely ever talk to on your facebook is not the same as having one or two close friends whom you spend time doing quality stuff with.
You aren't even in high school yet. You're still a child. What the hell do kids that young even do at parties?
Stop worrying about this shit. You realize you're introverted, take the steps in this topic to become more outgoing. Stop caring what other people think. Also stop worrying as much about "the best high school in the United States." Nobody cares what high school you went to. I've never heard of high school being where your future is decided. Maybe the US is different, I don't know.
You're new. This is how it is. When you enter high school, everyone will be new and by then hopefully you've taken steps to be happy with yourself. If you don't like yourself, then nobody else is going to like you either.
Stop worrying about this shit. You realize you're introverted, take the steps in this topic to become more outgoing. Stop caring what other people think. Also stop worrying as much about "the best high school in the United States." Nobody cares what high school you went to. I've never heard of high school being where your future is decided. Maybe the US is different, I don't know.
You're new. This is how it is. When you enter high school, everyone will be new and by then hopefully you've taken steps to be happy with yourself. If you don't like yourself, then nobody else is going to like you either.
QFT.
I was a huge social outcast in middle school. Bullied by everyone, didn't want to know anyone except for a few friends, left a few psychological scars etc etc. In high school, started getting out of my shell. Now starting freshman year, and I've gotten to know so many people just by talking to them, while joining clubs and stuff. You just need the right mentality.
That's what I thought too but didn't want to get into it. If you're going into something where you're relying on recruiters who come to your school, then yeah, school matters. Otherwise, I don't see it being as much a factor. For my field, it's all about my portfolio, contacts, and experience.
I reeeeeeeally wish someone would've told me this earlier in my life. It's definitely one of the best pieces of advice you can give. As long as you are an aspiring attorney or doctor to some degree, where you go to college isn't as big of a deal as a lot of people make it out to be. In all honesty, if you're competent and somewhat likable (Not highschool/middleschool "likeable", just polite and you actually look at people when you talk to them) you should be able to get some decent internships/job experience, and that should set you up just fine.
tl;dr
life's short. Keep your grades up, but don't obsess over them and just have a good time in highschool. That doesn't mean you have to party every Friday night. Just do things you enjoy doing.
My first day of high school, I brought my guitar.
A girl from English class with a Ramones shirt asked me to play Blitzkrieg Bop for her.
I proceeded to play Blitzkrieg Bop for her in a graveyard. Then, we made out.
Moral of the story: Fuck school. Play guitar. Listen to the Ramones.
A girl from English class with a Ramones shirt asked me to play Blitzkrieg Bop for her.
I proceeded to play Blitzkrieg Bop for her in a graveyard. Then, we made out.
Moral of the story: Fuck school. Play guitar. Listen to the Ramones.
I find it somewhat sad/weirdly funny that 22 people 'Luv' this but w/e
Agreeing with pretty much what has already been said. Basically don't worry about what Univeristy (grr or College), worry about that later, trust me when you get older you have soo m uch more to stress/think about and currently you should just enjoy life. When I was at secondary school I had a few 'mates' but I was not hugely popular. I did not go to very many parties even though I turned 18 before 99% of my year. Still I had a great time and enjoyed life. University.....(or College) is the perfect time to have a good time and meet new people since I bet at least a few hundred people will be feeling exactualy like you.
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Freaking enjoy life. This is not the "I can only make friends now" time in your life. You make friends throughout life so stop stressing. Do try and be social but don't (as others have said) feel the need to go to every party to prove how 'cool' you are. But also.... Be proactive! I would be kinda disappointed if you just stayed inside all day and now come running to us because you don't have friends. Be Proactive and freaking Talk to people your age. Even if you don't want to be their best friend its nice to chat to others and learn about them.
Anyway I am kinda rambling now so hope I helped
Ciao
Agreeing with pretty much what has already been said. Basically don't worry about what Univeristy (grr or College), worry about that later, trust me when you get older you have soo m uch more to stress/think about and currently you should just enjoy life. When I was at secondary school I had a few 'mates' but I was not hugely popular. I did not go to very many parties even though I turned 18 before 99% of my year. Still I had a great time and enjoyed life. University.....(or College) is the perfect time to have a good time and meet new people since I bet at least a few hundred people will be feeling exactualy like you.
In Summery
Freaking enjoy life. This is not the "I can only make friends now" time in your life. You make friends throughout life so stop stressing. Do try and be social but don't (as others have said) feel the need to go to every party to prove how 'cool' you are. But also.... Be proactive! I would be kinda disappointed if you just stayed inside all day and now come running to us because you don't have friends. Be Proactive and freaking Talk to people your age. Even if you don't want to be their best friend its nice to chat to others and learn about them.
Anyway I am kinda rambling now so hope I helped
Ciao
If you want friends, go out and meet people that share the same interests you do. The huge number of people on this website shows you're not alone. You just can't be afraid to go out and meet them. Surely there's a comic book store, a gaming center, or some kind of youth activities center somewhere around where you live. Go check it out, chat around, be friendly without being overbearing or desperate, and I guarantee you'll find people.
Don't worry so much about "parties" or what the "in crowd" is doing. At your age, parties are usually just a bunch of kids desperately to get noticed. Hell, there's a few people like that, in their lates 20's, at some of the bars I go to. Trust me, the type of people you pretend to be friends with, or whose parties you went to doesn't mean anything in the real world. All you should be trying to do is make some real friends, doing reasonably well in school, and enjoying yourself.
Don't worry so much about "parties" or what the "in crowd" is doing. At your age, parties are usually just a bunch of kids desperately to get noticed. Hell, there's a few people like that, in their lates 20's, at some of the bars I go to. Trust me, the type of people you pretend to be friends with, or whose parties you went to doesn't mean anything in the real world. All you should be trying to do is make some real friends, doing reasonably well in school, and enjoying yourself.
Oh and here's some real advice:
"Be yourself" is really vague and frustrating to hear but a better way to phrase it is "Don't try to be something you're not." Seriously, it's easy to tell when someone's fronting. Have you ever watched a white kid awkwardly try to act black in front of a brother? It's like that, man.
If you relate to the 'nerds' who play yugioh and chess at recess, then hang out with them. If you relate to the metalheads, hang out with them. If you relate to the football players, hang out with them. Then again that's easy for me to say because I played Magic, hung out with the metalheads, smoked with the potheads at recess...And we didn't really have 'preps' / 'jocks' so I was pretty much chillin with the whole school.
I don't think high school is nearly as stereotypical as it's displayed in TV and movies (in my experience at least.) Play the balance game - be polite, but don't be a dweeb. Be confident, but don't be a dick. Do what you like and don't make excuses for it. Whenever somebody would see me playing Magic and call me a dork or something I'd be like "Have you ever played it? It's pretty badass. You can summon demons and throw fireballs at eachother and shit." That would usually change people's minds.
Yada yada yada. And if you don't end up being beloved and respected at high school, above all, remember that high school is fucking stupid and by the time you get to college, your peers will all be really stoned and be super cool with you no matter what.
"Be yourself" is really vague and frustrating to hear but a better way to phrase it is "Don't try to be something you're not." Seriously, it's easy to tell when someone's fronting. Have you ever watched a white kid awkwardly try to act black in front of a brother? It's like that, man.
If you relate to the 'nerds' who play yugioh and chess at recess, then hang out with them. If you relate to the metalheads, hang out with them. If you relate to the football players, hang out with them. Then again that's easy for me to say because I played Magic, hung out with the metalheads, smoked with the potheads at recess...And we didn't really have 'preps' / 'jocks' so I was pretty much chillin with the whole school.
I don't think high school is nearly as stereotypical as it's displayed in TV and movies (in my experience at least.) Play the balance game - be polite, but don't be a dweeb. Be confident, but don't be a dick. Do what you like and don't make excuses for it. Whenever somebody would see me playing Magic and call me a dork or something I'd be like "Have you ever played it? It's pretty badass. You can summon demons and throw fireballs at eachother and shit." That would usually change people's minds.
Yada yada yada. And if you don't end up being beloved and respected at high school, above all, remember that high school is fucking stupid and by the time you get to college, your peers will all be really stoned and be super cool with you no matter what.
If it's any consolation, I used to be a social pygmy but now I'm great at networking, hitting on girls and being wildly popular. So you can turn things around, just set small goals. Start with talking to one person you don't know or don't know very well every day, just small talk garbage. You can go on from there, it's pretty easy to get into the habit.
Dates? Parties? You're expecting a bit much and (more than likely) misguided about what your peers are up to..
Obsession with the computer can be used in your benefit. Yes, I'm talking about social networking. The idea of using these sites to socialize is silly but it's where you should start to build your social relations. Simply "getting out" is extremely tough (timid people cannot do this), and online communications can ease that. It is easier to be outgoing when you're not confronting a person. Start with a few friends on your preferred site, and those gradually become regular conversations and before you know it you'll be where you want to be. It takes time though, so don't expect overnight results.
And I don't see any mention of physical appearance (and hate to make assumptions on this) but looking good means feeling good which gives you social confidence. If being unsocial is bothering you this much this would be a good first step.
I literally felt the exact same way when I was 15/16, decided I had enough of it, and did what I suggested above. I took gym classes in school every semester (before I avoided them because they weren't required), I started talking to various people online and ultimately started hanging out with them in person, which got me introduced to all the their friends.
Obsession with the computer can be used in your benefit. Yes, I'm talking about social networking. The idea of using these sites to socialize is silly but it's where you should start to build your social relations. Simply "getting out" is extremely tough (timid people cannot do this), and online communications can ease that. It is easier to be outgoing when you're not confronting a person. Start with a few friends on your preferred site, and those gradually become regular conversations and before you know it you'll be where you want to be. It takes time though, so don't expect overnight results.
And I don't see any mention of physical appearance (and hate to make assumptions on this) but looking good means feeling good which gives you social confidence. If being unsocial is bothering you this much this would be a good first step.
I literally felt the exact same way when I was 15/16, decided I had enough of it, and did what I suggested above. I took gym classes in school every semester (before I avoided them because they weren't required), I started talking to various people online and ultimately started hanging out with them in person, which got me introduced to all the their friends.
I'm going to recommend you never give this kind of reply if somebody starts teasing you about something "nerdy." The worst thing you can do is try to make it sound badass. If you really have to defend yourself just tell them old habits die hard and pass it off, don't hang on the subject or throw yourself in front of a bus over it.Nestle said:
WTF, if people beat you up if you talk about "things that nobody would bring up", then there is nothing wrong with you. No really, there isn't. We all have different tastes. And you should report whoever is beating you up to the authorities, that is assuming he already did it, if not, nothing to worry, you shouldn't get beaten up for your opinions, if you are, as said before, it is not your fault.
And oh, about parties? Seriously, I used to care but now guess what? I don't give a damn, what do you there, get drunk, have sex and risk ruining your life with STDs? No thank you, the situation you are in is a blessing in disguise. Of course, I am not dissing people who go to parties, go ahead, but there are of course precautions you need to take.
And oh, I also have the same computer problem you have, and honestly, just ask someone to lock up your computer if you don't have the discipline, that's what I do.
And lastly, life's too short to be depressed, enjoy what you have. There isn't "good" and "bad", just different. Really, lets imagine you have a girlfriend, and she dumps you. You can choose to: 1) Get depressed and mope over it. 2) Move on, and see the advantages of not having a girlfriend, like you can save your money, watch more TV, and be more lax about hygiene.