Hand-holding

Blue Ditto

Blue Ditto

Yeah, you read correctly. The reason why I'm bringing this up is because of a recent experience with unexpected hand-holding, which caused my feelings to suddenly switch from total indifference to mild infatuation. 'Twas shocking, it was. Who could have known that a little physical contact (...okay, so it was several hours...) would go so far...?

How significant is hand-holding to you? Is it a casual thing you take for granted, or is it something that can be as significant as kissing? Are there "levels" in holding hands that hold particular meanings, and are there any special meanings between you and friends/SO?
 
Physical contact is a big catalyst of emotional feelings. As is the idea that someone might like you.

I'm going to guess by the fact that you're weighing the "significance" of hand holding versus kissing that you're very young :P. That being said, I can't say I've ever casually held a girl's hand for an extended period of time. But it's different for every person, so you can't really tell.

Want to know if it was significant and shows she's interested? (I doubt it doesn't, honestly) Ask her out. :)
 
Naw, I'm just curious as to what you guys think--and I also google searched and found that quite a few people can place hand-holding in the same category as kissing, at the very least if done a certain way. Personally, I have levels--"casual" is just gripping, "crossing the line/family" is interlocking fingers, and then "relationship, what?" is gentle finger caresses and playing.

I'm not that young, although I'm definitely not the most experienced...and it's been a long time since I got excited over anyone. x)
 
Blue Ditto said:
Naw, I'm just curious as to what you guys think--and I also google searched and found that quite a few people can place hand-holding in the same category as kissing, at the very least if done a certain way. Personally, I have levels--"casual" is just gripping, "crossing the line/family" is interlocking fingers, and then "relationship, what?" is gentle finger caresses and playing.

I'm not that young, although I'm definitely not the most experienced...and it's been a long time since I got excited over anyone. x)
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I'm not expert on this sort of stuff so its best to wait for the wise old Smogoneers to com in


I am pretty sure however.....that general hand holding isnt that big a deal. like you said, maybe you havent felt that infatuation in a while, so this was waking a sleeping giant in your heart..LOL idk. I recently went to the movie witha friend of mine, I'm sort of sure she likes me however I made it clear it wasnt a date; anyway we held hands and even though I felt a spark so-to-speak.....it didnt mean i instantly became infatuated w/ her. Same with being good friends, or even fucking around with a good guy friend pretending to be gay

Hand Holding--the threads topic-- IMO isnt a big deal, nonetheless it can show feelings.

but idk I dont think its a huge deal
 
Holding hands with another man: He's trying to intimidate you or he's trying to come onto you.

Holding hands with a woman: She's trying to reassure you or she's flirting.
 
In my experiences hand holding leads to more affectionate acts such as kissing. For that reason I don't think I could place them in the same category but it is definitely something that I do only when I am romantically interested in another. It is basically a good way to let someone know what your intentions are without being too forward.
 
Hand-holding shows interest to me, but I'm very physical. Some people don't see it as a sign of anything, so you kind of have to interpret the hand-holding and the circumstances surrounding it.
 
Depends on how it was. I've held hands with many girls skipping along and acting gay, but obviously it didn't mean anything. It's holding hands while walking slowly together that could mean something more.
 
if it wasnt a joke hand holding (like chenman gave an example of) there is two scenarios.

1) She likes you. No one really ever holds hands for an extended period of time with someone they don't like. It's uncomfortable, you can't walk as fast, and you cant eat.

2) She's fucking weird. As many people have said, no one ever really holds hands unless they are in a relationship or about to be in one.
 
I don't know why everyone else is thinking so much of it or trying to read into it. Basically there's a decently high chance that she's interested in you enough that she'd say yes if you asked her on a date. Not really much else to it. If you don't want to date her, don't worry about it.
 
You see, to me, the best part of sex is walking home, holding hands, after swimming in the lake
To me, the best part of love is when you say, you'll be my friend


this thread is adorable
 
This raises another question: How far can a non-physical relationship go? I'd guess the answer is not very far.

Personally, I don't like body contact of any kind and merely tolerate handshakes and similar gestures. If any girl tried to hold my hand, I would recoil very quickly.

Just thought I'd throw those points in.
 
Objection said:
This raises another question: How far can a non-physical relationship go? I'd guess the answer is not very far.
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It can go really far, but after the first time you fuck in your life, you then realize how stupid it was to ever wait more than like a week with anyone.
 
the first time you hold hands is very special. nothing else is so innocent yet so thrilling
 
What do you folks think of the different ways to hold hands? Do you think that the different practices might donate different meanings? or is it all just the same, and not important enough to look in to?
 
Chris is me said:
I don't know why everyone else is thinking so much of it or trying to read into it. Basically there's a decently high chance that she's interested in you enough that she'd say yes if you asked her on a date. Not really much else to it. If you don't want to date her, don't worry about it.
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I'm pretty sure Blue Ditto is female.
 
Eh, I don't really hold hands with somebody in a public place, like at school for instance, so I'm not an expert on the subject.
It does present a nice feeling though. Just kind of a "it's innocent, but I'm really happy its happening" kind of feeling.
 
Hand holding can really mess up your emotions, or really any physical contact for that matter. I personally enjoy holding hands with my gf, although not for huge amounts of time. It's a fairly clean happy feeling.

Speaking of physical contact, my friend in his freshman year danced with a girl at one of the dances (can't remember which). He was completely uninterested in her until he danced with her (not grinding, she wasn't that type of girl). He then was completely head over heels for her, and it killed him when it turns out that she wasn't all that interested.
 
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