So you suggest take advice from a fish instead?Dominic?
also I suggest no one take advice from anyone named DickFrog. I mean, gross!!
I know I'm a bit late, but seriously the worst thing in the world is when a girl finds out a guy likes her, and she doesn't find out from that guy... Especially if you take forever to tell her afterwards, because it makes you look really shitty in a lot of ways. Based on your story it appears she will find out anyway, it helps so much more if she finds out from you. Just tell her... Even if she doesn't feel the same now, if you are a decent guy, most girls will hang out with you and whatever just to see where it goes, but you need to say something first, she can't read your mind.what do you do if someone untrustworthy somehow finds out who you have feelings for, or "like"? (gonna use the term like from now on even if it sounds stupid because typing have feelings for a bunch is stupid too)
anyways pretty much a girl found out who i like and i dont really trust her since she lies quite a bit, and told me a close friend (who i do trust) told her and the girl i like that i liked said girl. i confronted him about it and im like 99% sure he didnt tell her? i realize crushes and everything are pretty immature but i really am looking for some help
anyways i dont know if she actually know i "like" her but if she finds out what should i do?? (actually what should i do even if she doesnt find out?)
ive never really asked a girl out before when i was unsure of whether or not they liked me (generally i find out if they like me first) because im pretty shy and fear rejection!
sorry if this is hard to understand or whatever but thanks in advance
As long as you don't go overboard, yes you can.Don't date NYC girls they are stupid. Every girl I've ever met in my life out side of NYC had a great personality. STAY AWAY FROM HERE... 5 years of my life down the fucken shit hole. Oops.. can i curse? lets find out..
Errr, not to minimod in any way, but methinks you might need to lurk more. Tangerine poked fun at statements such as the one I bolded in his 1K thread; don't find your way into another one.Don't date NYC girls they are stupid. Every girl I've ever met in my life out side of NYC had a great personality. STAY AWAY FROM HERE... 5 years of my life down the fucken shit hole. Oops.. can i curse? lets find out..
I hear this all the time from young people, especially high schoolers in their first relationship. There's always a lot of teenagey "S/HE IS THE ONLY PERSON WHO UNDERSTANDS ME" angst. I think most people have to go through this at some point or another to break through their naivete about love and relationships; you don't really have much idea about anything when you're a teenager.My first serious relationship started back in May '09. He was my best friend since elementary school and I have always had a crush on him. We connected on so many levels and we always had fun together and at the time I was sure he was going to be the guy I was going to marry and be with forever. In our school's yearbook we were deemed 'The Cutest Couple' and whatnot so my hopes were pretty high.
People are really weird about this, and I don't really get why. Isn't it obvious that people will show love in different ways, and consequently you can't just infer things based on what you see in other people's relationships, or in your naive expectations?Then on Christmas day we were sitting on my couch and he randomly says that he missed the 'good-ole-days' when we were just best friends. He then called me 'awkward' and claimed I didn't care about our relationship because I wasn't one of those clingy girlfriends.
Good on you; most people I know, especially high school age, would have taken him back immediately. Gogo independence!So we broke up and stopped talking for a week. Then we become 'friends' again and he tells me he regretted breaking up with me and pulls the 'I love you and I can't live without you' card. Needless to say, I threw a water bottle at him and told him to get out my house.
Now whenever he tries to talk to me, I just call him awkward and walk away.
Aww.... =( Don't let it get you down.I asked her out today (she wasn't at school on monday). she said no.
I guess there's some desire for the stability and whatnot. In hindsight, I kind of regret not asking people out when I was in High School since I thought they'd never last (and there was a lack of people who were actually interesting to me).I'm still surprised just how many people want only extremely long term relationships that could potentially last "forever". All love is fleeting, so I don't see why you should stop yourself because you'll eventually be in a different place.
And your question is?How does one deal with trust and worrying?
a) Say my girlfriend has done something stupid that hurt me pretty bad, and I ended up finding out myself rather than by her telling me. She apologizes profusely for it, is honestly sorry, and realizes what she did and how it's messed up the relationship. I know she won't do it again, and I know for a fact that she does truly care about only me and has no feelings for anybody else, but the fact is that it still hurts and I just don't know how to get over it - I can't she how she even did it in the first place (I think this is partially due to the fact that I've never done anything along those lines - never really even considered it - and so the idea of it is just completely strange and unnatural).
If there are friends you don't like her hanging out with, for a legitimate reason (not just "I don't like that person so you shouldn't like them either"), then you should tell her so and the reasons. However, you need to just deal with it because ultimately it's her decision who she spends time with. Worrying is normal, so you don't need to beat yourself up for doing it.b) As for worrying, is there anyway to stop worrying so much when she goes out with friends or things like that? I honestly don't know if it's just me caring for her that much (I honestly feel that I'm in love or close to it with her, though I haven't said it yet and don't plan to until I'm sure) or if I'm just paranoid - most likely a bit of both. I don't know her friends personally, but I do know that some of them are people that I honestly don't like her hanging out with.
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How does one deal with trust and worrying?
a) Say my girlfriend has done something stupid that hurt me pretty bad, and I ended up finding out myself rather than by her telling me. She apologizes profusely for it, is honestly sorry, and realizes what she did and how it's messed up the relationship. I know she won't do it again, and I know for a fact that she does truly care about only me and has no feelings for anybody else, but the fact is that it still hurts and I just don't know how to get over it - I can't she how she even did it in the first place (I think this is partially due to the fact that I've never done anything along those lines - never really even considered it - and so the idea of it is just completely strange and unnatural).
b) As for worrying, is there anyway to stop worrying so much when she goes out with friends or things like that? I honestly don't know if it's just me caring for her that much (I honestly feel that I'm in love or close to it with her, though I haven't said it yet and don't plan to until I'm sure) or if I'm just paranoid - most likely a bit of both. I don't know her friends personally, but I do know that some of them are people that I honestly don't like her hanging out with.
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That's a lie, or you wouldn't really need to worry about her actions regardless of who she's with.I know she won't do it again,
Well what would be the point of a short-term relationship other than "for teh lolz"? At least there's much more of a companionship element in a long-term relationship, because a true friend/lover will not abandon you unless you deserve to be abandoned or he/she is dying.I'm still surprised just how many people want only extremely long term relationships that could potentially last "forever". All love is fleeting, so I don't see why you should stop yourself because you'll eventually be in a different place.