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Serious Relationships and Sex Ed Thread
- Thread starter Gabe
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I got some problems with the friend I've talked some days ago. He finally got a girl that like him, but now he don't wanna date her anymore because she's fat, since he isn't any close to beauty I told him that would be a great couple (she's very nice with him) and he gotmad at me. He was talking that she was fat and he don't want this to him, then I remembered that he don't have others girls to date and that most of the girl don't wanna date him (sad truth that he keeps forgeting).
A few days ago he called me to go to a club, my girlfriend wasn't able to go with me and I told him that I would go too. He started to be a dick and wanted me to let my girlfriend at home and go without her, that make me get made at him and I said "You wanna fuck my relationship just to go to the club where you gonna act like a dumb guy that can't go out with any girl so you can come at me in the next day crying that girls don't like you and you'll have to live alone". My girlfriend tried to help him to give another chance to that girl but he don't want. Since then we don't talk about girls anymore.
I just wanted to show him that he don't have much options, since girls also choose men and he isn't good looking and don't know how to talk to a girl (not like the douchbag from the story above, he's just [maximum level] shy). I already told him that and he still thinks he can get top girls without change nothing...
I had to talk this to someone, now I can relax a little bit better.
A few days ago he called me to go to a club, my girlfriend wasn't able to go with me and I told him that I would go too. He started to be a dick and wanted me to let my girlfriend at home and go without her, that make me get made at him and I said "You wanna fuck my relationship just to go to the club where you gonna act like a dumb guy that can't go out with any girl so you can come at me in the next day crying that girls don't like you and you'll have to live alone". My girlfriend tried to help him to give another chance to that girl but he don't want. Since then we don't talk about girls anymore.
I just wanted to show him that he don't have much options, since girls also choose men and he isn't good looking and don't know how to talk to a girl (not like the douchbag from the story above, he's just [maximum level] shy). I already told him that and he still thinks he can get top girls without change nothing...
I had to talk this to someone, now I can relax a little bit better.
I think that any relationship built on "this is the best I can do" not only needlessly limits yourself, but it also greatly hurts the other person. If one's sole reason for staying in a relationship is because he/she believes they can't do any better, then they're lacking confidence and independence, in my opinion. You don't need to date someone to be happy. If you love life and enjoy who you are, potential dates are bound to notice at some point. If you impose limits on yourself, then those limits exist. You lock yourself into your own chains.
But really what's worse about the situation is you two guys making that girl feel under appreciated. If she's a nice, funny person, then that's awesome. It already sounds like she has a lot of inner beauty. Don't go ruining that by judging her worth based on her physical appearance. People are people, not trophies or cattle :I
But really what's worse about the situation is you two guys making that girl feel under appreciated. If she's a nice, funny person, then that's awesome. It already sounds like she has a lot of inner beauty. Don't go ruining that by judging her worth based on her physical appearance. People are people, not trophies or cattle :I
Well, I told him to date because she's nice, he talked about she beenig fat... And I also tried say to him that he must think good of himself, but them he started to act like an asshole to the girls that don't wanna date him... I think he don't accept regection and don't accept the idea that he don't have even a good talk with girls...
Well, turning someone down just on looks is a pretty shitty thing to do, in fact I hope he didn't dump the girl telling her she was fat (goodbye self-esteem) BUT a relationship needs real physical attraction to really work. You should desire your partner, nor just date and fuck him/her just because you can.
I liked fat girls when I was fat. Honestly its probably because I thought I couldn't do better on the account that I was, you know, obese. But nowadays although I have no problem getting a average size/slim girl (I do love petite women), and my confidence has gone way up, I still find myself loving fat girls. Big girls are welcome in my life (pants? Bedroom? Heart?) anytime, So maybe it wasnt because I was fat that I liked them in the past.
Hmm, who knows why we are attracted to what we are and why we prefer this over that. The rules of attraction can be very complicated.
Hmm, who knows why we are attracted to what we are and why we prefer this over that. The rules of attraction can be very complicated.
Bullshit, not having an intimate relationship with someone because they're not physically attractive to you is perfectly valid.
Yeah. I pretty much came to that same conclusion, Alison. I didn't feel like really adding much because others like birkal's post especially pretty much said what I would have said most likely had I contributed. Also guessing his friend is somewhere between the age of 12 and 16. In fact my guess is the same for chronusgreed himself (no offense. Sorry brah)
No problem, but we're both 21. =)
Because when he's without a girl he start to cry to me that he don't have a girl. It's getting anoying.
Lol, I agree with whoever said he sounds too immature to be dating in the first place. I hope you find a way to put him in his place.
Well... Talking about it with somebody else already help. Thanks guys. =)
To be fair I know someone like this and it does get tedious. I just tend to act nonchalant towards his moaning and in the end he goes away and moans to someone else. I don't have a lot of patience for people like this.
Dumping someone just basing yourself in looks because other people will deem he or she unattractive whereas you do think he or she is attractive enough IS a shitty thing to do.
Good Lord I was joking, it exists but people shouldn't whine over it so much.