and whats with the stigma surrounding using the pussy pad?
Because a lot of guys at the gym are Jersey-Shore-watching posers who like to get all amped up on Red Bull and possibly steroids and let their testosterone override their common sense? Honestly the "pussy pad" does not hinder your squatting ability, it's just a measure to provide a little extra comfort. It's not going to keep you from injuring yourself if your form is improper, but it'll certainly keep you from bruising or chafing on the contact point of the bar. Just my opinion though.
If all else fails, just remember that as much as you think you are mocked, you are still not as bad as those old shriveled dudes who prance around the locker room butt ass naked.