LonelyNess
Makin' PK Love
Disclaimer: I am quite intoxicated at the time of writing this thread so it might not be entirely coherent (luckily spell check exists).
Warning - The Reading of this Thread Will Cause Your Viewing of a B-Grade Movie to be Slightly Spoiled
So I just got done watching a movie called TiMER. It's about an alternate future where everyone (well, mostly everyone) has these wrist timers that can predict 100% to the dot when you'll first make eye contact with your "soulmate".
Now, through the movie the protagonist's (Girl A) timer is blank meaning her soul mate hasn't gotten a timer yet so she goes through life dating timerless men hoping to find her "The One". Anyway, because her timer is blank she's forever miserable because she thinks she's going to be without true love forever and ever, but she meets a guy who she falls in love with who has a timer (later revealed to be a fake timer), but decides she doesn't care because she's in love. Later he reveals he doesn't have a timer and refuses to get one because he thinks they're bullshit. Later in that week though the girl's timer starts to count down (meaning her soulmate got one). She gets all excited because it's scheduled to beep during her birthday party.
Anyway simultaneously her sister (Girl B) has this ridiculously long timer on her watch (something like 10 years or whatever). She's miserable because she knows she's going to be alone for X amount of time, but she meets a guy and falls in love with him but this guy doesn't have a timer so he can't possibly be her soul mate (cause hers has already started counting down).
So the girl with the ridiculously long timer decides to say "fuck it" and gets her timer removed, because she's content to be with the guy that she's fallen in love with.
At Girl A's birthday party, it's revealed that the love interest of Girl B got a timer and is actually Girl A's soul mate. Girl B is pissed off and starts a big fight and Girl A is in denial that it's true, goes and gets her timer removed and then there's a big climactic scene with the guy she fell in love with at the beginning of the film where she's like "I don't carea bout this soul mate bullshit I love you!"
Now, that I think would have been a good way to end the movie.... but then they ruin what I thought would have been a good "here's something to think about" conclusion by making her realize that that guy really ISN'T for her... then she gets together with her soulmate, validating all of the bullshit that we've been lead to believe has made her life miserable the entire movie.
Anyway, cop-out ending aside, I felt it raised a thought provoking question...
Do you believe in a "The One"? Defined as the singular person in existence that is destined to be the person you are meant to be with romantically.
(Remember that not everyone necessarily has a "The One"... they may be destined to live alone or with a sub-optimal partner forever!)
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Anyway, my answer to this question is no... I don't believe in a The One. I believe that given a subset of qualities that we find desirable, we CHOOSE who we fall in love with. I have loved 3 girls in my life and I very likely could have happily spent the rest of my life with them (had they chosen me as well). I also believe that this is one reason why so many marriages / relationships fail, because those involved are lulled into some false sense that it's not a choice to be in a good relationship... that one should just "happen" if it's "right", and that any deviation from perfection is a sign that you're not meant to be together. But I'm of the opinion that even a relationship that is "right" still requires a conscious decision of both parties to work hard towards that relationship.
Though perhaps something could be said for the determining of whether or not to love someone. What makes me so much more likely to choose Girl Y over Girl X in any scenario? What makes me want to TRY and work out a relationship with one girl over any other? You could say it's possibly predetermined....
Anyway, the movie, while pissing me off, made me think of this... so Smogon what do you think?
Warning - The Reading of this Thread Will Cause Your Viewing of a B-Grade Movie to be Slightly Spoiled
So I just got done watching a movie called TiMER. It's about an alternate future where everyone (well, mostly everyone) has these wrist timers that can predict 100% to the dot when you'll first make eye contact with your "soulmate".
Now, through the movie the protagonist's (Girl A) timer is blank meaning her soul mate hasn't gotten a timer yet so she goes through life dating timerless men hoping to find her "The One". Anyway, because her timer is blank she's forever miserable because she thinks she's going to be without true love forever and ever, but she meets a guy who she falls in love with who has a timer (later revealed to be a fake timer), but decides she doesn't care because she's in love. Later he reveals he doesn't have a timer and refuses to get one because he thinks they're bullshit. Later in that week though the girl's timer starts to count down (meaning her soulmate got one). She gets all excited because it's scheduled to beep during her birthday party.
Anyway simultaneously her sister (Girl B) has this ridiculously long timer on her watch (something like 10 years or whatever). She's miserable because she knows she's going to be alone for X amount of time, but she meets a guy and falls in love with him but this guy doesn't have a timer so he can't possibly be her soul mate (cause hers has already started counting down).
So the girl with the ridiculously long timer decides to say "fuck it" and gets her timer removed, because she's content to be with the guy that she's fallen in love with.
At Girl A's birthday party, it's revealed that the love interest of Girl B got a timer and is actually Girl A's soul mate. Girl B is pissed off and starts a big fight and Girl A is in denial that it's true, goes and gets her timer removed and then there's a big climactic scene with the guy she fell in love with at the beginning of the film where she's like "I don't carea bout this soul mate bullshit I love you!"
Now, that I think would have been a good way to end the movie.... but then they ruin what I thought would have been a good "here's something to think about" conclusion by making her realize that that guy really ISN'T for her... then she gets together with her soulmate, validating all of the bullshit that we've been lead to believe has made her life miserable the entire movie.
Anyway, cop-out ending aside, I felt it raised a thought provoking question...
Do you believe in a "The One"? Defined as the singular person in existence that is destined to be the person you are meant to be with romantically.
(Remember that not everyone necessarily has a "The One"... they may be destined to live alone or with a sub-optimal partner forever!)
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Anyway, my answer to this question is no... I don't believe in a The One. I believe that given a subset of qualities that we find desirable, we CHOOSE who we fall in love with. I have loved 3 girls in my life and I very likely could have happily spent the rest of my life with them (had they chosen me as well). I also believe that this is one reason why so many marriages / relationships fail, because those involved are lulled into some false sense that it's not a choice to be in a good relationship... that one should just "happen" if it's "right", and that any deviation from perfection is a sign that you're not meant to be together. But I'm of the opinion that even a relationship that is "right" still requires a conscious decision of both parties to work hard towards that relationship.
Though perhaps something could be said for the determining of whether or not to love someone. What makes me so much more likely to choose Girl Y over Girl X in any scenario? What makes me want to TRY and work out a relationship with one girl over any other? You could say it's possibly predetermined....
Anyway, the movie, while pissing me off, made me think of this... so Smogon what do you think?